The emotional side of going it alone
Updated: Nov 2, 2019
Leaving my 9-5 to experience being my own boss was genuinely one of the best things I've ever done, but the emotions that come with such a step were something that I wasn't expecting. So what were the surprise emotions and what advice would I offer to someone who was thinking of taking plunge? Read on to find out.
1. Be realistic about your partner's support - remember that just because your partner has agreed to support your ambition, doesn't mean they will be positive about the move the whole of the time. The reality is that they take on the responsibility of shouldering the potential loss of a constant monthly salary which is a big responsibility. They may also at times feel a little envious of the fact that you're going out there to make your dream a reality when they are stuck in the same place, doing the same thing. Bear this in mind and it will help keep your relationship on track. I've been very fortunate to have a husband who has wholeheartedly supported our business, but the compromises that we've made to get where we are with Taylor'd Bundles, have at times been hard to swallow. He sees the endless time, calls, meetings, preparation and occasional missing out of family time that I have had to forfeit in order to keep my business going. He's said that at times, he finds it hard to watch. I get it. I really do but I keep my eye on the prize and am realistic with what I expect to get back from the business. The day I don't get the salary and buzz from the business, is the day I will need to reassess.
2. Have a plan - whether your objective is complex or simple, always have a plan you can refer back to as it will keep you focused and on track. If your plan involves going freelance for a while to get more experience, to get more money, gain more flexibility to do more of what you love, then write these things down and keep referring back to them to remind you of why you made the move in the first place. If you don't know what you want to get from this change, how are you going to know if the change has made a difference?
3. Be agile - if something ain't working, change it. Learn to quickly be able to review a situation and come up with a plan b, c, d and put plans in place to make the change happen. The changes can be minor such as sharing the pick ups so you can work a little longer or maybe it's writing your 'to-do' list the night before so you can hit the ground running first thing. Enjoy being in charge of your time and don't let it take over your life and leave you feeling overwhelmed. Feel empowered instead of overwhelmed and remember, being agile doesn't mean working all the time. Be smart with your time - work smarter, not harder.
5. Don't seek the approval of EVERYONE - this is really important to note as it will turn you into a paranoid mess if you don't take this on board. The reality is some people in your social world will NEVER Like, share or comment on anything you do. Some of your contacts will never engage with what you're doing and that's ok. DYou don't need the approval of everyone - no one has and no one ever will get this. Remember, you're not doing this for them, you're doing it for you. If you have an idea that you're not sure about, seek the approval of contacts you do trust and let them help guide you on your next step. They are the only ones that really count.
5. Don't seek the approval of EVERYONE - this is really important to note as it will turn you into a paranoid mess if you don't take this on board. The reality is some people in your social world will NEVER Like, share or comment on anything you do. Some of your contacts will never engage with what you're doing and that's ok. Don't assess your success on Likes - this is false reassurance and remember, you don't need the approval of everyone - this is totally unrealistic. Remember, you're not going on this journey for them, you're doing it for you. If you have an idea that you're not sure about, seek the approval of contacts you do trust and let them help guide you on your next step. They are the only ones that really count.
So in summary, being your own boss rocks. You get to be creative, manage your own time, explore what you're really made of and make money that goes straight into your back pocket. On the other side, it comes with compromise, moments of self doubt and a few wobbles along the way. Being realistic about what you want to get from your business will keep you sane and if you begin to lose love for it, change tact or come up with a plan b. Do what you love, and love what you do. Always.